After the outpouring of support from my post yesterday, it's only fair that I expand and clarify a few things.
I am surrounded by women that are mothers. Really good, strong, independent, loving, nurturing mothers. I feel my own was the best momma ever loving me unconditionally until the day she died. She also possessed a strong maternal urge to protect her kids at all costs no matter what the consequences.
I have that trait. I will go to battle any day, anytime for all of my kids. And not just their physical safety - most often I worry most about their emotional stability. I want them to walk with their heads high every single day on this earth knowing their mother would fight to the death to protect their integrity, character and souls. And they do know. All of my kids know this about me, most obviously Bubba and my daughter because they are the oldest.
I, like a lot of my mom friends, had (or have to) coparent with an ex. That task in and of itself is not easy... again, if you can't stay married, coparenting won't be easy either. But throw in another spouse (or 3 more in my ex's case) and it becomes a little overwhelming. And not only the spouses, all the dates sprinkled in between that came home to meet the kids was just as awesome.
So faithful readers - I am sorry for my tirade yesterday. I allowed 4th wife to get under my skin. See, she has her own blog and although she doesn't even know me or Bubba (or his wife, or his son), she finds it necessary to blog about us on occasion. And she lies. Every single, solitary word on the page is incorrect. It amazes me how blatantly wrong it is - not even close to a version of the truth. But of course, she's perfect. See, she lives her life with no drama, because she is just a victim that married the most perfect man on the planet that just so happens to have the most evil kids and ex's she's ever met. She even claims to have a support group of other women that are victims to these natural, biological mothers and their evil kids. Talk about hypocrisy - she herself has natural born children and is a biological mother but somehow she is perfect at that task as well.
Oh... to the contrary. If she was as perfect as she claims, she would understand a mother's need to protect her kids (if she did it to her own, that is - she IS a mother after all). If she was perfect, she would understand how much you have to make up for the absent (or idiot) father of your kids (as she claims she has to all the time in her blogs). If she was perfect, she would understand that 3 years of a marriage does not constitute understanding the intricacies of the past 22 years of family events~ births, deaths, marriages, divorces, etc. But alas, she is not perfect. None of us are.
I was reminded by my beautiful, wonderful daughter in law that I do not have to defend our family. I don't even need to defend myself because I live each day loving my children unconditionally and doing the right thing and they KNOW it. I don't drag drama all over facebook, twitter and my blog. Although today, I am. Yep, I'm being the mature 40 year old that I am because I can - it's my blog. See, I am the baby of the family!
So I deleted her stupid blog and I won't read the car wreck anymore that is their lives. My intimate family life is as perfect as we make it - we have removed all the individuals (including family members) that stir up crap, hurt others intentionally and don't live the creed of loving unconditionally. Sure it's sad from the outside that we don't have relationships with certain individuals but love by obligation is NOT something I have ever taught my children. Just because his title is "father" does not mean that you have to engage in a relationship with him, particularly if he has proven time and again that he cannot be trusted. Intentional hurt is never required, regardless of the title.
So thanks to all the beautiful women that called, text and emailed me yesterday. It's all good, girls. We will keep loving our children each day and not feel guilty about protecting them from harm... even if it is related. That's our job, after all! Guard those dens and keep out the vultures!