They say when you decide you want to run a marathon, the first step you should take is telling everyone once you sign up. The accountability factor, I suppose. The personal dedication and integrity of your word, possibly. In short ~ once you sign up, you gotta do what you say you're gonna do.
I love to write. I write everywhere I can. Not only because I have an opinion but I absolutely love the feedback I get (good and bad) when I voice something. Especially something I'm passionate about.
So here it is. I'm going to combine the two. I'm going to start to write.
Of course I will still blog here, but I'm going to head out on that tiny limb and really start to write. And I have a lot to say.
Even though this is my blog and I can say whatever I feel, I still temper it quite a bit. I do know people that read it from time to time that my opinions may hurt their feelings. And as independent as I am, I'm not really that mean. Well, sort of.
My biggest passion as all of you know is my kids. I have sacrificed everything else for them (and continue to do so). I miss some of my own things because my kids have stuff going on. I won't even address the financial implications of kiddos. But I love them totally unconditionally, all three of them, and they totally get that.
I cannot sit back any longer and keep my mouth shut about the atrocities I see around me towards biological mothers and coparenting. It troubles me so much that I awake in the night by it sometimes. It's CRAZY that there are a zillion kids being raised in threatening, bullied, selfish situations ~ ones that the bio moms cannot control. They have to sit back helplessly and watch it unfold for their children. I can relate with my own experiences coparenting after divorce and I will most certainly be using my own anecdotes. Oh, I have a LOT to talk about on that front. Sure, I'll change the names to protect the innocent... if it makes them feel better that way.
There a zillion blogs, books and the like about how awful it is for step mother's to come into a marriage and have to deal with the biological mother of their spouse's kids, but nothing seems to point out how impossible it is for a mother to sit back and watch her kids be bullied, treated unfairly and subjected to crazy ass step mothers simply because the father cannot be alone and/or choose wisely... and clearly NOT put their children first.
I'm putting the children first and putting my voice on paper.
The greatest news? There are a few small publishing firms that I'm certain will help me! And of course SO many online tools to distribute my words as well. So off I go. We shall see. May take years, but the word is finally going to get out.
As it should.
BTW - I will be setting up a forum for moms in this situation to comment, provide their stories and feedback and personal anecdotes of their own shortly. It will be confidential and only for my eyes so I am hopeful you will continue to share your stories with me. Nothing is ever insignificant in this process!
Happy Thursday, friends!