Today is the anniversary of the fateful call I received 7 years ago that my momma passed away. I remember exactly where I was, what I was doing, what I was wearing. It's funny how small things will stick in your brain from a single moment in time but you can't remember what is on your grocery list on your fridge at home when you are at the store.
As the baby of the family and separated by 6 years from my next older sibling, I spent a lot of my childhood being obnoxious. I was loud, boisterous and sassy... but mostly only to my momma. To my father, I was obedient, respectful and quiet. This duality has served me fairly well as an adult. I can channel my focus, competitive drive and "need to succeed" from my father into my career while I am my truest self in my personal life. It's strange how that happens ~ when your kids grow up they will take on manifestations of you that you never imagined until you see it in them. My oldest Bubba is a lot like me as well (the momma side of me)... always striving to be his truest self.
As for my teens, I was a nightmare. My folks divorcing when I was 16 didn't help matters. I rebelled significantly; evidenced by my marriage and baby by 18. But it was always my momma that toed the line and taught me how to become a woman and a mother, to be empathetic to others and be true to myself.
Those that know my momma will remember her as honest, true, a bit sassy (okay, a LOT sassy), opinionated and loving. She would give you the shirt off her back if you needed it but would be straightforward in identifying your mistakes so you wouldn't need it again. But if you ever did, she was the first person to arrive.
The older I get, the closer I become my mother. I strive for the day when I don't have a duality in my personality. When I can be exactly me, no holds barred in any aspect of my life. My d-day will help me to achieve that goal. My momma was a minimalist without trying to be. Sure, she collected lots of things. But money was not her truest intention. Loving her family was her number one goal... and she nailed it.
I miss her unconditional love every single day of my life and I'm certain I will until I join her in heaven. I am so blessed to have had such a great woman in my life. I pray that I have the strength, courage and wisdom to be even half of the mother she was to her four children.